In the reminiscences of many otaku’s youth, Aoi Sola undoubtedly holds a special place.
Since stepping into this industry at the age of 18, she has been the most talked-about figure in the adult film world.
The news of Aoi Sola’s retirement due to marriage in 2017 saddened many otaku.
Actually, due to cultural differences, there are different interpretations of her status as an AV idol in China and Japan, which is quite normal.
Perhaps in Aoi Sola’s view, she just pressed the pause button at a certain point in time and then started a new life.
But this particular profession destined her to bear indelible marks.
She has tried to tear off the label, but while taking off clothes is simple, putting them back on is difficult.
People only remember your most embarrassing moments, while selectively forgetting the efforts you’ve made to shed labels.
In fact, as early as 2010, Aoi Sola started social media accounts and made efforts to converse with netizens in Chinese.
In the following years, she began to try to transition into different fields, released albums, appeared in movies and TV dramas, and even announced her retirement after marriage.
But the noise around her never stopped.
The nature of her profession has filled the comments section of her social media accounts with filthy messages. This place is a dumpster for emotions, where different people take pride in spitting into it.
Many people like to peek into certain clues from her daily shared photos and then use disgraceful language to insult and mock her.
With the birth of her twin sons, this language violence has insidiously shifted to her children.
As a mother, she likes to share her children’s daily lives on social platforms, but out of concern for their privacy, she chooses to blur their faces.
Sometimes, the two brothers are seen sitting obediently on the sofa watching TV, which is very cute.
Sometimes, the two of them, just after taking a bath, playfully romp around naked, naughty yet in line with their current age characteristics.
But occasional shares of her children’s photos do not bring praise.
The filthy language in the comments section escalates the prejudice against her profession directly to malicious comments about her children.
Some directly make lewd remarks about the children:
“Who is your daddy?”
“Will they watch their mom’s works in the future?”
The surging malice fermenting on her social media accounts, where those who superficially praise her as the “goddess of otaku” secretly wish to see her fall into an abyss.
It seems that many people like to manifest their sense of self-righteousness by throwing mud everywhere.
Perhaps Aoi Sola, who has been immersed in the industry for many years, no longer cares about the outside world’s gossip, but when baseless accusations and insults extend to her children, I believe no mother can calmly accept it.
In fact, shortly after becoming pregnant, she removed all of her works from public view, fearing the impact on her son’s upbringing.
But some things cannot be completely abandoned just because you want to withdraw.
As the children grow older, they have vaguely become aware of their mother’s past through social media.
Although they are still young, the filthy language from the outside world still affects their young minds.
Not long ago, during an interview with an online media outlet, she talked about her experiences as an AV idol for the first time and the impact it has had on her children, even choking up several times.
Language bullying, what kind of impact it will have on their childhood, she doesn’t dare to think about it.
But one thing is certain: in this era of advanced internet, even if Aoi Sola tries hard to protect her children’s privacy, one day they will inevitably appear in public bearing the overly stigmatized labels imposed by the outside world.
In fact, since their birth, they have received more insults than blessings.
The majority of the comments are along the lines of “Mom is an AV idol, the poor kids” or “They will never be happy as her children”…
Perhaps she can isolate herself from the gossip, but when boundless malice spreads to her vulnerable spots, she finds that the fortress she has built is surprisingly fragile.
Aoi Sola said that when she first heard these comments, she was very puzzled:
“Who decides that you are pitiful?”
Because she has always believed that whether the children are pitiful or not, only they can feel it, and outsiders have no right to make decisions for them.
After retiring from the industry for many years, she has focused all her life on her family, sharing anecdotes from kindergarten with her children and enjoying the joys and sorrows of marriage.
She actively tries in different fields, occasionally taking on small roles in front of the camera for a living. Although her career is lukewarm, the fame she accumulated in earlier years is still her best endorsement.
She hopes to return to a plain life, but ideals are lofty, while reality is stark.
A naked question stands before us:
Can those who trade their bodies for fame and money be understood by the public?
Even if they try to transition, will society accept them?
I can’t give a definite answer, because every choice you make now will have consequences for the future.
Either accept the rewards of your efforts or bear the corresponding costs.
On June 14th last year, Aoi Sola posted a photo commemorating her 21st anniversary in the industry on her account and thanked everyone for their support along the way.
In fact, in her heart, this is just a profession that doesn’t need to be overly interpreted. But her earnestness has always been overwhelmed by malicious speculation. Slowly fading out of the public eye seems to be her most dignified farewell.
In fact, looking back on the opportunity for Aoi Sola to enter the adult film industry was purely accidental.
Her dream was to enter the entertainment industry, but after considering reality, she chose to become an AV idol, which could be seen as taking a shortcut to realizing her dream.
Over a decade, she was elevated to the position of “goddess of otaku,” but also bore scars that were hard to erase.
Someone once interviewed passersby about how they viewed these AV idols, and the responses were basically the same:
“I understand their selling of their bodies for money, but I wouldn’t accept my girlfriend, sister, or daughter engaging in this industry.”
In fact, it’s not difficult to understand. In love, we have possessiveness; in family life, we have protectiveness.
We can criticize their “double standards” from the moral high ground, but we can’t change human nature, nor can we reverse the direction of public opinion.
Behind the fame gained from stripping lies not only enduring insults and ridicule but also the possibility of innocent family members getting involved.
In fact, a few years ago, Aoi Sola once said:
“I stripped naked in front of the camera to survive, while you, dressed neatly in front of the camera, are only for selfish desires and deceit.”
We can’t say her pursuit of dreams in the entertainment industry is wrong, it’s just that the price paid for this shortcut is too heavy.
Whether switching to business or getting married and having children, she has gained her own happiness, but the blade of public opinion has never completely disappeared.
Perhaps she has already come to terms with the insults she has suffered, but when this curse shifts to her children, I wonder how she will comfort them.
Whether a parent’s profession will affect a child’s upbringing is a matter of opinion;
But in real life, prejudice arising from a parent’s profession, escalating to verbal bullying of the child, is inherently wrong.
Seemingly weightless words, when gathered together, become sharp blades, torturing the hearts of the victims.
Since we cannot change the existing reality, let us strive to be the warm sun that breaks through the night, rather than the chilling snow.
We respect their right to restart their lives, and to choose their way of living, which is the most rational and sober choice.
